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Want me to write you a love letter on my blog? To the comments with you!
All I can think about lately is how much I want to quit Facebook. Then I want to post that on Facebook. Hello there, fence I’ve been on before. Um. More than once.
When you can embed two relevant self-authored links in your very short lead, you probably oughta make a damn decision already, huh?
Problem is–and I’m not pretending it’s a unique problem that only I have–there are people with whom 1) I would like to stay in contact with but 2) my only means of contact is Facebook. I don’t want to “lose” those people. But I don’t want to be at that party anymore.
I kinda thought making my own space would be like throwing my own party, but my invitations could be better. Hence this idea I have to write love letters to (some of) my Facebook friends, here on the blog.
First, it will keep me posting regularly, and not about the same old things.
Second, I can share the posts on Facebook (from a converted person-to-author page, which I’ve been wanting to do for a long time and need to just DO already) so said friends can see the posts and maybe say hi here, or at least know where I “live” now, and that I haven’t forgotten them. Don’t want to forget them. Want to be remembered by them. (Does that sound like I’m dying? I’m not. I mean, I am. We all are. But…forget it.)
Third, who doesn’t like getting a love letter?
So, I’m polling for opinions. Would someone you only know from social media writing you a love letter on her blog and tagging you in it on FB freak you out or make your day? If the love letters are of the epistolary poem persuasion–i.e., kinda lyrical and pretty and interesting–would they appeal to more than just the person about/to whom they are written? Should I just stay on FB? lol. I welcome comments and suggestions.
And if we’re friends* on Facebook and you want me to write you a letter, by all means, speak up. xoxo
UPDATE 2/5/16: I think I’ve decided to keep the letters anonymous. That is, I won’t name you outright. I realized that giving names limits what I feel comfortable sharing in the letters. I don’t want to say anything about you that you don’t want people to know! That said, if I write you a letter, I WILL share it with you. But I won’t tag you when I post it, and I won’t address you by name. Maybe initials, maybe a made-up nickname? Logistics to come.
UPDATE 2/8/16: Restating that the subjects of love letters will be “…people with whom 1) I would like to stay in contact with but 2) my only means of contact is Facebook.” Sorry, Mom/Dad/bro/besties/co-workers/coffee shop dude.
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I love this idea. You the truth stacia.
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Lol, I love that the coffee shop dude must have asked you for a letter…
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Don’t you dare leave.
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I love your idea, and, indeed, who wouldn’t love getting a love letter?
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Love this idea! The near-only reason I’m still on FB myself is that there are so many writers that are scattered across the country/globe that I wouldn’t be able to keep in contact with w/out it. But this is a lovely and intimate idea.
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Intimate? Idk my therapist says I have issues with that. Ha. Thanks for reading and commenting. 🙂
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Haha, I meant intimate in the way of personal, heartfelt, as opposed to the arm’s distance that most social media keeps people by default.
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Yes. And I think a lot of us, maybe even especially writers, are still on FB like…well to continue the party metaphor: the music sucks, the food is gone, the keg is kicked, even the conversation is slurred and incoherent and pukey, but dang if there aren’t some peeps whose digits we still need to get. 😛
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Haha, well put! 🙂
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I’m all for love letters 🙂 and I consider some of my virtual writing friends as close as those I know in real life. As far as quitting FB, I get it. It’s a real time suck and on occasion, a people suck, ha. But I think it’s too good of a source for writing community to lose.
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Same. But I don’t feel like I have a writing community there as much as on people’s blogs. And I’d like to have a little bit here. So glad I found your blog, for instance. 🙂
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Dude, I have the same feeling and probably about some of the same people. Facebook doesn’t make my life better, except that it’s how I keep up with people I will probably never have the chance to be friends with in the pop-in-for-coffee, text-at-work, bring-brownies-on-a-bad-day sense, but who are very important to me, like classmates from Spalding, writers from my home town, friends from past stages of life. Sometimes seeing posts from those people feels really important, like if I don’t know that you all are out there struggling to write and getting mad about politics or taking pictures of your dogs, I won’t be a real writer. It’s dumb, but there it is. If you figure out a way to detach from Facebook without detaching from that network of people, share the knowledge.
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This is an attempt. We’ll see. I feel the carbon copy of what you wrote here. You are someone I’d bring brownies to, btw! Expect a letter.
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